At some point, thinking harder stops helping.
Most people who come here don’t need advice.
They need relief from the constant internal debate.
Here, you start to understand that what you need is to see clearly what’s already happening.
Who you are before who you think you should be takes over.
How you feel before what you think you should feel takes over.
All that we will be doing is seeing the extent to which the things that you’re already doing, thinking, believing, behaving are in the way of you experiencing your life fully. In so doing, you will naturally see your capacity to change.
Before you start solving for the problem you think you see, make sure that you first see that problem clearly. Make sure you’re aware.
Why Solutions are not what you need right now.
When you’re already thinking everything through, more strategies or objectives often makes things worse.
Most people who arrive here aren’t lacking information. They’re exhausted from analyzing, weighing and second-guessing themselves and feeling very confused.
For a long time, many of us believed that thinking harder and achieving more will save us. But right now, more plans only add noise.
When life becomes hyper-cognitive, your awareness gets drowned out. Your natural intuition is on mute.
Stopping to sit with your thoughts and your body feels so unsafe, because your sense of safety relies on logic and what to do next.
That’s why being told what to do can feel strangely wrong at this stage.
Advice pulls you further into your head when what’s needed is awareness.
This is Awareness-Based Coaching.
My coaching is not about what to do.
It’s about how you’re being as you do it, whatever you do.
And we start by paying attention to what’s happening in you, in real time.
In our sessions:
I speak to what I notice and feel as it happens
I ask clear, honest questions
I don’t follow a script. I follow what’s actually happening in the session
I help you hear yourself, not my voice
We won’t be adding more to your life, we remove what interferes with your awareness of self, others and of your context.
This kind of shift doesn’t apply to one problem only. It changes how you meet every part of your life.